Help Your Husband: Pray for Him

Sometimes (especially when we're frustrated, upset, or angry) we need a little help getting our prayers to flow in the right direction. ...

Sometimes (especially when we're frustrated, upset, or angry) we need a little help getting our prayers to flow in the right direction. I received a copy of this prayer years ago (before the Internet, even!), and have retyped it, copied it, given it away, and now have this platform to share it with you!

"I believe that one of the privileges and responsibilities we have as wives is to pray for our husbands. In order for him to be the man, the father and the husband that God intended for him to be, we must pray for him according to God’s Word.
God’s Word is His perfect will for man. Therefore, as we pray His Word, we are praying God’s best for our husbands. As we faithfully pray this way, God’s power will be released within our husbands, making them the men of God they were created to be."
~Karen Duncan

Father, I come to your throne of mercy in the precious name of Jesus. I desire for my husband to be the man of God You have created him to be. Therefore, I pray Your Word for him because Your Word is Your will.
My true heart’s desire is for both of us to manifest the character of Christ in our home, to walk in peace and love with You and with each other, and to continue to grow in our relationship with You, Lord.
As I pray, I believe by faith that the Holy Spirit is moving upon the Word of God and upon my husband.
Change me, Lord, that my life may glorify You. Help me, Lord, not to be anxious and fretful or to take
things into my own hands, but to trust You in all things. Thank You, Father, for answering these prayers. Amen.

Father, I pray that my husband:
“...lets no unwholesome words ever pass his lips but lets all of his words be good for benefitting others according to the need of the moment.” Ephesians 4:29 Weymouth Translation

“ quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to lose his temper because man’s temper is never the means of achieving God’s true goodness.” James 1:19-20 Phillips Translation

“...let’s all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from him, with all malice (spite, ill-will or baseness of any kind).” Ephesians 4:31 Amplified

“...when angry, does not sin; does not ever let his wrath, exasperation, fury or indignation last until the sun goes down.” Ephesians 4:26 Amplified

“...knows that a soft answer turns away wrath, but harsh words cause quarrels.” Proverbs 15:1 TAY

“...receives Your grace, favor, loving-kindness and mercy which are enough for him (that is, sufficient against any danger and enables him to bear the trouble manfully) for God’s strength and power are made perfect; fulfilled and completed and show themselves most effective in his weakness. Therefore, he will all the more gladly glory in his weaknesses and infirmities, that the strength and power of Christ the Messiah, may rest,
may pitch a tent over and dwell upon him.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 Amplified

“...has strength for all things in Christ who empowers him, he is ready for anything and equal to anything  through Christ who infuses inner strength into him.” Philippians 3:13 Amplified

“...waits upon the Lord, expects, looks for and hopes in Him, and so changes and renews his strength and power.” Isaiah 40:31 Amplified

“ anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, lets his requests be made know to God, and Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, will guard his heart and mind through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 KJV

“...does not fling away his fearless confidence, for it carries a great and glorious compensation of reward. For he has need of steadfast patience and endurance, so that he may perform and fully accomplish the will of God,
and thus receive and carry away and enjoy to the full what is promised.” Hebrews 10:35-36 Amplified

“...does not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the  appointed season he shall reap, if he doesn’t loosen and relax his courage and faint.” Galatians 6:9 Amplified

“...he is confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in him will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6 KJV

“...has not been given a spirit of timidity, cowardice, craven and cringing and fawning fear, but God has given him a spirit of power and of love and of a calm, disciplined and well-balanced mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7 Amplified

“...thinks on whatsoever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy, help
him to think on these things.” Philippians 4:8 KJV

“...that he and I will stand firm in united spirit and purpose, striving side by side contending with a single mind for the faith of the glad tidings of the Gospel.” Philippians 1:27 Amplified

“...and that he will know and understand what is the immeasurable and unlimited and surpassing greatness of Your power in and for us who believe, as demonstrated in the working of Your mighty strength.” Ephesians 1:19 Amplified

“and this I pray, that his love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment, that he may approve the things that are excellent, that he may be sincere and without offense until the day of Christ,”
Philippians 1:9-10 NKJV

“I ask that he may be filled with the knowledge of Your will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that he may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the
knowledge of God; strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, for all patience and longsuffering with joy;” Colossians 1:9-11 NKJV

“I thank you, Father, that my husband dwells with me with understanding, giving honor to me as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that our prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7 NKJV

"You, Lord, are his God and he hears your voice. You teach him to profit and lead him by the way he should go. Everything he sets his hand to shall prosper.” Isaiah 48:17, Psalm 1:3 NKJV

“...that he clothes himself as God’s own chosen one (His own picked representative) who is purified and holy and well-beloved by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of himself, gentle ways and patience which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper.” Colossians 3:12 Amplified

“...I pray that __________ and I will endure long and be patient and kind, that our love will never be envious nor boil over with jealousy; it will not be vainglorious nor will it display itself haughtily. __________ and I will
not be conceited, arrogant or inflated with pride; we will not be rude or unmannerly and will not act  unbecomingly. God’s love in us does not insist on its own way or own rights, for we are not self-seeking, we are not touchy or fretful or resentful, we take no account and pay no attention to a suffered wrong. I pray that ________ and I will not rejoice in injustice or unrighteousness but rejoice when right and truth prevail. Our love shall believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances and will endure everything without weakening. Love never fails, and God’s love in us will never fade out, or become obsolete, or come to an end.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Amplified

“And may the God of peace Himself sanctify him through and through (separate him from profane things, make him pure and wholly consecrated to God) and may his spirit and soul and body be preserved sound and complete and found blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.” 1 Thessalonians 5:23 Amplified

“This is the confidence, (the assurance, the privilege of boldness) which I have in You; I am sure that if I ask anything (make any request) according to Your will (in agreement with Your own plan), You listen to and hear me, and since I positively know that You listen to me in whatever I ask, I also know with settled and absolute knowledge, that I have granted me as my present possessions, the requests made of You.” 1 John 5:14-15 Amplified

Naturally, these prayers could be prayed for anyone, male or female, young or old. They could even be prayed for oneself.  I hope you find them beneficial, that they build hope and faith in you for the future God has planned! If you'd like a PDF copy, please leave a comment or e-mail me and I'll send you one.

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  1. Nikki, what a wonderful post!
    I LOVE this series.

    Sigh. On Monday I even asked forgiveness for a situation where we'd BOTH been mutually rude. And I didn't even say...but I did it because you...

    Okay. Probably sounds trite. But for me this is a breakthrough!!!

    Sigh. Back to work.

  2. Thanks Patti!
    My husband once informed me I didn't know HOW to say "I'm sorry." Kind of like the Fonz! Now I can apologize for being snarky, without feeling like I have to apologize for being right. LOL.


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